Books & CDs

We have a range of books and CD’s that we offer for sale or loan to our clients . Warning: significant positive life change may result from prolonged exposure to any of the personal development resources provided by 4-Life.


Mindfulness Skills: Volume 1

mindfulnessskillsv1This CD has been designed to teach you a set of useful psychological skills, known as ‘mindfulness skills’. Mindfulness is a state of awareness, openness and focus. The regular practise of mindfulness skills will reduce stress, increase self-awareness, enhance emotional intelligence, and enable you to handle painful thoughts, feelings and sensations far more effectively. There are 5 tracks on the CD, plus an 8-page booklet about mindfulness. Ideally, this CD will be used in conjunction with ‘The Happiness Trap’.

Mindfulness Skills: Volume 2

mindfulnessskillsv2This CD has been designed to add to, and develop further, the mindfulness skills learned in Volume 1. The exercises are more challenging than those in the first volume. There are 5 tracks on the CD, plus an 8-page booklet about the utilisation of mindfulness skills.

The Happiness Trap

thehappinesstrapThis easy-to-read self-help book is firmly based on the principles of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy. The title reflects a key theme: that popular ideas about happiness are misleading, inaccurate, and often make us miserable. The book covers in detail how to use mindfulness skills, values, and effective action to enhance health, vitality, and life satisfaction.

Based on a revolutionary new development in human psychology, this book will show you how to find more fulfilment in your work, build more satisfying relationships, and, above all, create a rich, full and meaningful life.

Schema Therapy

Reinventing Your life

schematherapyDo you feel that even the people closest to you don’t care enough about you or don’t understand you as well as you would like? Do you believe that you are somehow defective – that no one who truly knows you could possibly love and accept you as you really are? Do you find that even when you earn approval, you still feel unfulfilled or undeserving? If so, you’re caught in a “lifetrap”: a self-defeating pattern that starts in childhood and reverberates throughout your life.

In this vital guide, psychologists Jeffrey Young and Janet Klosko draw upon the breakthrough techniques of cognitive therapy to help you recognize and change self-defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviours – quickly and easily.

Marriage & Relationships

The seven principles and making a marriage work

7principlesDr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman’s many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage.

The Relationship Cure

relationshipcureLeading relationship expert and best selling author Dr. John Gottman presents a revolutionary five-step program for repairing troubled relationships – with spouses, children, friends, and even colleagues. Drawing on a host of powerful new studies Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive.

Introducing the empowering concept of the “emotional bid,” Gottman shows that all good relationships are built through a process of making and receiving successful bids. His simple yet life-transforming program shows listeners how to become master bidders by effectively turning toward others.

Positive Psychology

When am I going to be happy?

authentichappinessBased on a popular course given at the New School in New York City, this book teaches that many of the negative emotional habits that make us unhappy are learned behaviors and that, once we become aware of these destructive habits, we can stop them. By the author of Why Do I Think I’m Nothing Without a Man? Martin Seligman is the founder of the Positive Psychology movement, a shift in attention to the psychology of functional rather than dysfunctional states of mind. Rather than asking how to heal the troubled, Positive Psychology asks how to help people make their lives as good as possible.

Get Out of Your Own Way

getoutofyourownwayProcrastination…Envy…Anger…Self-pity…Compulsion….In any of its many forms, self-defeating behavior is the single most common reason that people seek psychotherapy. It is a poison that prevents people from achieving the love, success, and happiness they desire. Get Out of Your Own Way is an antidote, explaining the reasons for self-sabotage by going back to the childhood origins of various behaviors. With anecdotes and usable insights drawn from twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, Dr. Mark Goulston shares ideas that have helped thousands of patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion-to approach life’s challenges with dignity, wisdom, courage, and even humour.

Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda

wouldacouldashouldaHighly readable and filled with practical advice, Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda analyzes case studies and provides exercises for recognizing and changing negative thought patterns in a practical program to enable people to get rid of crippling regrets about the past and regain control of their lives.

With eloquence and accessibility, Dr. Aaron T. Beck analyzes the actual dialogue of troubled couples to illuminate the most common problems in marriage–the power of negative thinking, disillusionment, rigid rules and expectations, and miscommunication.


VIA Signature Strengths Questionnaire?

Measures 24 Character Strengths?Questionnaire and classification of strengths are the work of the Values in Action Institute (VIA), under the direction of Drs. Martin E. P. Seligman and Chris Peterson, and funding for this work has been provided by the Manuel D. and Rhoda Mayerson Foundation. © 2002 Values in Action Institute. Used with permission.

VIA Strength Survey for Children?

Measures 24 Character Strengths for Children?From Authentic Happiness, Chapter 12 – Raising Children Questionnaire and classification of strengths are the work of Nansook Park, University of Rhode Island, through the Values in Action Institute (VIA), under the direction of Drs. Martin E. P. Seligman and Chris Peterson, and funding for this work has been provided by the Manuel D. and Rhoda Mayerson Foundation. © 2003 Values in Action Institute. Used with permission.

Life Satisfaction Questionnaires:

Approaches to Happiness Questionnaire? Measures Three Routes to Happiness?Questionnaire is the work of Chris Peterson, University of Michigan. Used with permission.
Satisfaction with Life Scale?

From Authentic Happiness, Chapter 5 – Satisfaction about the Past Scale developed by Ed Diener, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. Used with permission.